Pope Francis advises couples not to have sex before marriage: “Purity teaches true love”

The Pope wants the Catholic Church to establish “complementary routes” for divorced and remarried couples and couples who are already living together before marriage. This became apparent in the catechumen of the Catechumens Route for Family Life A ministry of laity, family and life, published this Wednesday in the Vatican.

“My sincere wish is to be the first The document should be followed as soon as possible by another, specifying specific pastoral methods And possible escort routes, specially dedicated Couples who have experienced marital failure and are living in a new union or married in a civilized way“, He explains Pope Francis.

And meaning Impurity Occupies several paragraphs This document. He says that “the church should never lack the courage to offer us the precious virtues of chastity, although this is now completely contrary to the common mentality. Immorality should be presented as an authentic “ally of love” and not as a denial of it. In fact, it is a privileged way to learn to respect the individuality and dignity of others, without subjecting oneself to one’s own desires.. Chastity teaches newlyweds the time and ways of true love, tenderness and generosity; And prepares them for a true gift of their own, which they will later live a lifetime in marriage. ”

He proves it It is necessary “to show that the virtues of chastity not only have a negative dimension, which asks each of them, according to their living conditions, to refrain from the erratic use of sexuality, but also has a very important positive dimension of freedom. – Physically, morally and spiritually – which in the case of the call to marriage is of fundamental importance in the conduct and upbringing of marital love, Protecting it from any manipulation. In short, chastity teaches us that in every situation of life we ​​were faithful to the truth of our own love. This means, For a couple, to live a life of unbridled restraint and, once married, to live in close intimacy with moral correctness. ”

And he continues: “Restrained innocence allows the relationship to mature gradually and deeply. When in reality, as often happens, the sexual-genital dimension becomes the main element, if not the only one that connects the couple, all other aspects are inevitably in the background or are blurred and the relationship does not progress. Restrained chastity, on the other hand, promotes mutual understanding between couples because it prevents the relationship from focusing on the other person’s physical instrumentalization, allowing for deeper dialogue. ”

“It is never useless to talk about the virtues of chastity, even when talking to him Couples living together, Analysis. “This virtue teaches every baptized person, in any situation of life, the proper use of sexuality, and therefore, it is extremely useful even in married life. As spouses, in fact, the importance of the values ​​and care that are taught through the power of chastity becomes even more evident: respect for the other, caring to never be subject to him. Your own desires, patience and delicacy in times of need with your spouse, Physical and spiritual, strength and self-control necessary in the absence or illness of one of the spouses, etc. Also in this context, experience It will be important for Christian spouses to explain the importance of these virtues About marriage and family.

ᲓDocument Emphasizes that the church wants to be close to divorced and remarried couples and those who already live together before marriage and to walk with them so that they do not feel abandoned. And they can find welcoming and brotherly places in communities that promote insight and participation.

On the other hand, he stands out Emphasizes the need to avoid divorce and emphasizes marriage preparation as an “antidote” to prevent the proliferation of zero or inconsistent marriage celebrations.

“Prevention of rupture is, in fact, a crucial factor today in preventing segregation, which can worsen and irreparably damage the connection.” Explain.

In this regard, he warns of the “serious concern” that causes him that with very superficial training, couples are at real risk. Celebrate a zero-sum marriage or one with such weak foundations that it “breaks down” in a short time and can not withstand even the first inevitable crises.

Francisco also refers to the condition of families who have problems that leave deep wounds in people. In this regard, he recalls that the church is a mother and that “a mother has no privileges over her children”, but all of them should be given the same care, the same attention and time.

“Like priests and saints, couples are children of the mother church, and such a big difference in treatment is not fair,” he warns.

Also remember that The vocation of the priesthood and the divine life originate from families, Which form the fabric of society and “They shed tears with patience and daily sacrifice.” “It is the duty of justice for the mother church to devote time and energy to preparing those whom the Lord calls for a mission as great as the family,” she said.

Francis thus demands that the parish or The community has a pastoral accompaniment service for couples in crisisWhich can appeal to those who perceive that they are in this particular situation.

In terms of The Vatican suggests that they were spouses, especially those who suffered after the crisis To overcome those who become the “companions” of couples In distress or already divided.

Similarly, the route document Catechumen of marriage of Eristavi, family and life department Notes that “it is necessary to start training projects aimed at couples who are accompanied by those in crisis, as well as those who are far away, in order to create Conditions for pastoral service that meets the needs of families And also children. “

Inevitable separation

ფEverything, The Vatican recognizes that there are situations when separation is inevitable And the Pope encyclical quoting Amoris Laetitia, it is said that sometimes He may become “morally necessary,” When it comes to getting rid of a weak spouse, or small children Severe Wounds Caused by Pride and Violence, Frustration and ExploitationAlienation and indifference.

It is important for the Vatican to “accompany [también] Pastorally separated, divorced and abandoned. “ In addition, he pays special attention to the need to “welcome and especially appreciate pain Who has unjustly suffered separation, divorce, or abandonment, or was He was forced to break up the cohabitation due to his mistreatment by his wife. “

Finally, the document protects this Divorced and non-recurring persons who are often Witnesses of marital fidelity to find nourishment in the Eucharist To maintain their condition.