Is it possible to sleep with sex?

LCalling the body, lying on the bed, in the middle of the day, can cause various desires. A moment of relaxation, a moment of peace finally found, of peace, of gentle breathing. Or the smell of crumpled sheets, messy hair, sweat, and under-16 images.

Which one to choose when two ways are available to you, the possibility of a siesta and a less quiet but more interesting nail?

“If you want individual resource time, the desire of others can be offensive and painful” – Capuchin Moreau, sexologist

If time is short and holidays are suitable, there is no need to choose. One can follow the other, the order does not matter. Everything is possible for a single couple at home (or hotel), provided that the two halves agree on the intentions. “It happens that after eating, one of them says: “I’m going to sleep”, and the other replies: “Um, I’ll follow you”Sexologist Capuchin Moro notes. But we have to agree on what we mean by “sleep”. If this is code to turn this quiet time into an intimate and erotic time for the couple. Or if one wants individual resource time, in which case the other’s desire can be offensive and hurtful. »

The rhythm of the body gives “the”. For some, this time spent digesting food, when their stomachs are as heavy as their eyelids, does not lend itself well to somersaults. When others see it as an opportunity to put the cake after dessert.

Do not wake the children…

And then… for some couples there are children. Who sleeps – or not – in the next room. If we choose an intimate moment, of course, we should think about making the bedroom a safe space: teach the little ones to knock on the door, press the lock or just hold the handle on the chair. The risk of interruption may deter some parents, while others find the restriction of silence especially exciting, making the dungeon a coffin from which nothing escapes, where every gesture is minimized, where its constricted space focuses all attention. and multiplies sensations.

“I enjoy finding new niches in long-term couples,” says the sexologist again

Finally, the siesta, when it is planned, can become the appointment of choice. “I think it’s great for long-term couples to be able to find new niches, to avoid an evening ritual that can be potentially anxiety-inducing.”, notes Capuchin Moreau. in his book Erotic creativity in a couple (La Musardine, 2020), he breaks the myth of spontaneity: “Every day, we rarely have the same desire at the same time, spontaneously. So it would be good to voluntarily free up time for an intimate date, for example, when we were not yet living together. »